How I Deal When The Struggle Gets Real
Have you ever felt completely alone? Unable to relate to other human beings? Just questioning your own existence and how it relates to the bigger picture?
I have been there. It is a daily struggle that many people will never understand. But I am a firm believer in never giving up so I have tried to institute some measures that help me deal with periods of depression.
Thanks to my business partner Sal, I now understand how important yoga is to my mental health. I remember when we used to travel together to Super Bowl for work. After a few days in town at a hotel, he would start freaking out about not having a place to do yoga. In my mind, I was like “chill man; it’s going to be okay.” But now that I have started to do yoga on a weekly basis, I understand how it does a great job keeping me grounded. It also helps welcome thoughts that pop into my head and then release them back into the world.
My yoga instructor Claudia has taught me how to really enjoy the stretches and mind space that the practice brings. You can find her website here. She hosts amazing virtual classes as well - so no matter where in the world you are, she can guide you in a great class.
I am the furthest thing from a scientist, but I read a few articles that an 528 Hz frequency stimulates areas of the brain that can make you feel more in touch with the universe in a very outer-body type of way. Lately, I have found some 528 Hz tunes on Spotify and just play them on a loop in the office.
Here is a playlist on Spotify that I have been enjoying in the office.
My dad used to play basketball on Thursday nights in the city when I was younger. And he always used to say, when on the court, he never thought about his daily troubles. I feel the same way when I play pickleball. For an hour on that court, my mind is completely focused on the task at hand, which is dinking and dunking and staying out of the kitchen.
As a business owner, it is very hard for me to put down my phone. However, there have been a few times where we have been at a pool party or area where I have to put my phone away. And I can’t tell you how much happier I am when I put it away. It is super addicting to have access to, but so much better to be without it for a bit.
Over the past few years, I have transitioned to a vegetarian diet (with the exception of fish). However, I still cook for my family. When I am preparing eggs, pasta, steak, salmon, etc. I almost never think of anything else but getting creative with the ingredients on my plate.
Like I said once in my TedTalk, no one would ever know this about me looking in from the outside. But I am sharing this about myself as a way to help others going through the same struggle and also to shine a light on the fact that nothing is as it seems on the surface. The struggle is real, but we have to keep pushing through.
Watch my first ever Ted Talk below
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